Why Do Men Struggle with Change?

Date: Saturday 31 Aug 2024

Change challenges us. It's part of growth. However, it often feels daunting. Many men struggle with it. But why is it so hard to embrace?

The Comfort Zone

First, we love our comfort zones. Familiarity feels safe. It's predictable. But to grow, we must step out of this zone. Staying put hinders personal development.

Actionable Tip: Identify small steps to take. Break down bigger changes into manageable parts.

Mistake: Diving into change too quickly can overwhelm. Pace yourself.

Stat: Research suggests that people revert to old habits within 30 days when changes are too drastic. Reference

Fear of the Unknown

The unknown scares many. Change invites uncertainty. This is where fear grows. It's natural. Overcoming it is crucial for progress.

Actionable Tip: Visualize positive outcomes of the change. Focus on benefits rather than fears.

Mistake: Ignoring anxiety about change. Address it head-on instead.

Stat: A study found that 85% of what we worry about never happens. Reference

Attachment to Identity

Our identities are shaped by habits and routines. Change challenges these. Shifting habits can feel like losing a part of ourselves.

Actionable Tip: Gradually integrate new habits into your identity without rushing.

Mistake: Expecting instant identity shifts. Transformation takes time.

Stat: It takes an average of 66 days to form a new habit. (James Clear)

Emotional Attachment

Emotions play a big role in change. We often have deep emotional ties to our current state. Letting go feels like a loss.

Actionable Tip: Acknowledge emotions during the transition. They are valid and must be addressed.

Mistake: Suppressing feelings. Allow yourself to process them instead.

Stat: Emotional processing can reduce stress levels. Reference

Cognitive Dissonance

There's also the mental conflict. We know change is beneficial but resist it. This conflict is known as cognitive dissonance.

Actionable Tip: Focus on aligning beliefs with actions. Consistency eases the conflict.

Mistake: Ignoring the internal conflict. Acknowledge it to move forward.

Stat: Addressing cognitive dissonance can increase your commitment to change. Reference

Resources for Support

Lastly, seeking support eases the burden of change. Brothers in Arms offers resources to navigate these transitions.

Actionable Tip: Utilize platforms like our Blethr for self-exploration. It's a unique, tailored space for each user.

Mistake: Going through change alone. Reach out for support.

Stat: Utilizing support systems can increase the success rate of change.

Understanding why change is hard makes it manageable. Facing these challenges head-on leads to growth and a better future.

For more guidance Read the full article here. Or visit our Men's Wellbeing Advice section on the Brothers in Arms website for more of our content.