Starting a conversation about depression

Don't be afraid of talking about depression. Talking to a guy about depression and providing support is one of the best ways you can help.

Medically reviewed by Dr. John Ogrodniczuk, PhD – Written by the HeadsUpGuys Team.

Posted May 25, 2017. Updated September 23, 2021.

Recovery starts with a conversation

Talking to a guy about depression may feel difficult or awkward at first, but it’s a conversation that needs to happen. Knowing how to start that conversation isn’t easy.

Below are some tips for breaking the ice around a difficult topic.

Here’s what you can say:

1.
“You seem pretty stressed and tired these days. Something wearing you down?”

2.
“You haven’t seemed like yourself the last few weeks. Is anything up, maybe something I could help with?”

3.
“No matter what’s bothering you, I’m all ears. Don’t worry, I’m not here to judge you.”

4.
“I just want you to know that I have your back, whatever’s going on I’m open to helping out in whatever way I can.”

5.
“All this stuff is actually pretty common among men – it’s nothing to be ashamed of.”

6.
“I’m not an expert when it comes to this kind of thing, but there’s a site called Brothers in Arms. It has lots of practical tips for dealing with stress and depression. Here I can show you…”

7.
“There’s an app on this site called Brothers in Arms, maybe try using it and you can get a better sense of how you’re doing?”

8.
“I hate to see you down like this. You know if you’re not feeling right, there’s no shame in seeing a doctor and getting their advice.”

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